How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Lessons-8B

How do I make Anger Management a priority?

supportive-talk-troubled-relationshipDoes your Anger have a Payoff?

In mastering this skill, one must realize that our anger has its inducements. Relieving stress, hiding other emotions, getting people’s attention, revenge, or controlling another person because they are afraid of us are just some of the benefits expressing our anger may give us. Hence, we don’t like to give up these perks. We will need to decide that the long-term benefits of Anger Management are more important than the quick payoffs our temper tantrums will give us in the present.

Learn Anger Triggers and Issues:

To gain some proficiency in anger control, we must recognize that we have an anger ball with triggers sitting inside of us. This “ball” is unresolved anger issues. If we are still angry about something in our past, similar issues will release the old anger, therefore, compounding and magnifying the present feeling. If suddenly you become very angry over some issue, it is important to examine things to see if the incident triggered some old, unresolved anger. Old anger is a ticking time bomb until we recognize and deal with these long established issues. Take the time to recognize your triggers so you know when they have been tripped and work on reducing old issues.

Understanding our Personal Anger:

Once you understand your personal anger, then you can begin to acquire skills to help control it in a respectful and positive way. Sometimes, we need to go to counseling to resolve our old anger issues, so they do not interfere with the present. We can learn ways to calm our thoughts, release our anger in positive ways, notice and counter the aggression and energy of the Fight or Flight response and we take care of our needs by looking at the message our anger is sending us. These are all ways to gain control of our anger in a healthy means. Positive Anger Management skills empower you to take control and reduce the negative fallout from a temper episode.

despair-513529_1920Wishing you a Happy, Healthy way of Life!!!

I hope this 15 part series on Anger Management has stimulated your desire to learn this skill. Anger is a natural and important part of life. It is there to send you important information, encourage you to take action to change a negative situation, survive a dangerous circumstance, send a message or help you in life. Learn not to be afraid of your anger that instead, understand it, master it, use it to energize and change you. Once you comprehend your anger, it can become a helpful friend. If you find that you need more help than just reading this blog; I hope you will consider seeing a professional to aid you in this process. The skill of Anger Management can help you gain a healthier, happier, positive and more fulfilling life. 

If you want to change your negative anger habits but are having trouble changing; a competent professional counselor can be helpful. To make this process easy just go to and book a conversation with Vicki or read my full 15 part series, “How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps.”

If bookworms would like to read books on this subject, check out “Healing the Angry Brain” by Ronald Potter-Efron MSW, PhD. or “The Anger Workbook” by Les Carter and Frank Minirth.