How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps-Part 5C

How do I learn my anger triggers so I can have more control over them?

smiley-1041796_1920Make a point of learning your Temper Triggers:

So you have just read two examples of “Old Anger” and how it can get triggered in the present day. It is important to become aware of your anger issues and your temper triggers. This knowledge helps you become consciously aware of what is happening to you and empowers you to control your anger better. Because of the telephone story, I am now aware of the anger power behind the word “lazy”. If someone calls me lazy, I can now realize that I am not only angry about being accused of that condition, but it also carries a lot of emotional baggage for me. As a result, I can be more realistic and calm myself down quicker. Anger triggers are very personal and often unique to the individual. They are tightly woven from the past. That is why you may not be quickly recognized a button has been pushed. It can be a trigger as simple as a word, sound, color or smell. So make a point of noticing your temper triggers so you can work on handling them.  Just being conscious of them is half the battle. You will know why you are so mad instead of just feeling rageful all of a sudden.

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As a review to help gain control of one’s anger, it is imperative to acknowledge the amount of “old anger you are retaining in your subconscious.” These memories have triggers. When something in the present happens, that strongly links to your past issues, stored up anger is ignited and released. A person can ID these buttons by noticing when their anger is out of proportion to the current event. Upon reflection, one can learn to recognize what painful past event has been triggered. These cues can bring formally subconscious reactions to your conscious level. This knowledge empowers you to use your anger management tools to reduce, control and release your anger in a positive way. Two important keys to taking back control from your anger are to decrease your old anger and learn your anger triggers.  A caring professional counselor can help you with this problem if you are having trouble doing it on your own. For some basic support, set up a chat with Vicki by going to read the rest of my  15 part series on “How to learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps.”

If you would like to check into books on this subject, there is “Honor Your Anger” by Beverly Engel or CD: “Relax, Unwind & Sleep.”