A sixth Anger payoff is that an emotional outburst can be used for punishment and revenge. For example, let’s say someone has let you down. A huge wave of rage envelops you. Your reaction is to punish them and teach them a lesson. Deep down, you want them...
Many years ago, I had a neighbor by the name of “Ruby”. One day, Ruby confided that she and her husband were getting a divorce. When I asked what caused the breakup, Ruby mentioned several things, but one issue is a good example of an Anger Button. Ruby had...
Anger Management is learning to release or express your Anger in POSITIVE ways instead of NEGATIVE ways.
The next step to understanding your anger is realizing how you developed these habits. Most of our anger tendencies were developed in childhood. These reactions then became deeply embedded responses due to years of practicing. Children tend to react on impulse. They do not reason out the long-term implications...
As children, we responded to anger with impulsive behavior. Since our higher levels of thinking had not yet developed, we expressed this behavior in simple, automatic reactions. Maybe you cried, yelled, bit, hit, ran away, or pouted, but your reaction was straightforward and quick. As a young toddler, you...
Anger is a feeling. It is not good or bad. Instead, it is a natural response to a situation. Your anger is giving you a message. It is trying to tell you that there is something going on in the current situation that you don’t like.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I have been teaching Anger Management skills for 20 years. This will be an 8 part miniseries on Anger Management that should provide my readers with some helpful insights into developing healthy and positive anger management skills. Each section will post major aspects of...