A sixth Anger payoff is that an emotional outburst can be used for punishment and revenge. For example, let’s say someone has let you down. A huge wave of rage envelops you. Your reaction is to punish them and teach them a lesson. Deep down, you want them...
A fourth “Anger payoff” is that it hides emotional pain. Anger becomes a convenient Band-Aid to cover up uncomfortable feelings like fear, loss, guilt, shame, embarrassment, hurt, and feelings of rejection or failure. Anger is a way to put a tight lid on painful emotions. It is such a...
In mastering this skill, one must realize that our anger has its inducements. Relieving stress, hiding other emotions, getting people’s attention, revenge, or controlling another person because they are afraid of us are just some of the benefits expressing our anger may give us. Hence, we don’t like to...
Many of us have found that our angry feelings have become a destructive part of our life. When someone comes to that conclusion, a healthy alternative is to learn Anger Management. The skill of Anger Management doesn’t come naturally to most of us. That is because we began to...
Believe it or not…..some people become addicted to Anger. Anger can give us some positive side effects. Because of this, we can get so we rely on our anger to give us these benefits. These “Anger Payoffs” may prevent us from really trying to get our anger under control....
So you have just read two examples of “Old Anger” and how it can get triggered in the present day. It is important to become aware of your anger issues and your temper triggers. This knowledge helps you become consciously aware of what is happening to you and empowers...
Take slow deep breaths (breathe from your belly…this is a calming trigger) Use Positive self-talk: Say to yourself calming thoughts like, “I can handle this”; “Stay calm”; “It will be OK”; “I can control my anger.” If you can stay calm, tell the person how you feel in a respectful way....
Our feelings are a product of our thoughts. Feelings are nothing more than a chemical reaction in our brain. Did you realize that our master controller, our brain, works mainly by a complex interaction of chemicals?
Your Anger Ball is strongly imprinted memories of anger issues that you have never resolved and therefore are still carrying around inside your subconscious self. To make this concept simple, let’s call it your “Old Anger.” All of us have had things happen in life that has...
Anger Management is learning to release or express your Anger in POSITIVE ways instead of NEGATIVE ways.