Grief is the human reaction to a important loss in one’s life. It has psychological, physical and social components. Grief is often attributed to the death of a meaningful person in someone’s life. But grief is a process that we must go through when we lose anything of significance...
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Divorce Grief: The Loss of Love: Part 2
Most people enter into marriage to have a life partner, a home, and a family. Sometimes issues, problems, or characteristics pop up that a couple cannot resolve. When a marriage ends, it is a deep and personal loss. Human beings grieve significant losses in life. So let’s examine the...
7 Tips to Stop Your Child’s Anger Meltdown
Anger is a normal and natural emotion. It is not good or bad, it’s just a message telling a person they do not like what is happening. But getting mad comes with a powerful and explosive energy. To help defuse this burst of emotion which causes children to lash...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps-7C
A sixth Anger payoff is that an emotional outburst can be used for punishment and revenge. For example, let’s say someone has let you down. A huge wave of rage envelops you. Your reaction is to punish them and teach them a lesson. Deep down, you want them...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps- 7B
A fourth “Anger payoff” is that it hides emotional pain. Anger becomes a convenient Band-Aid to cover up uncomfortable feelings like fear, loss, guilt, shame, embarrassment, hurt, and feelings of rejection or failure. Anger is a way to put a tight lid on painful emotions. It is such a...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Lessons-8B
In mastering this skill, one must realize that our anger has its inducements. Relieving stress, hiding other emotions, getting people’s attention, revenge, or controlling another person because they are afraid of us are just some of the benefits expressing our anger may give us. Hence, we don’t like to...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps 8A
Many of us have found that our angry feelings have become a destructive part of our life. When someone comes to that conclusion, a healthy alternative is to learn Anger Management. The skill of Anger Management doesn’t come naturally to most of us. That is because we began to...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps Part 7A
Believe it or not…..some people become addicted to Anger. Anger can give us some positive side effects. Because of this, we can get so we rely on our anger to give us these benefits. These “Anger Payoffs” may prevent us from really trying to get our anger under control....
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps-Part 5C
So you have just read two examples of “Old Anger” and how it can get triggered in the present day. It is important to become aware of your anger issues and your temper triggers. This knowledge helps you become consciously aware of what is happening to you and empowers...
Anger Management: Ways to Reduce AngerPart 4B
Take slow deep breaths (breathe from your belly…this is a calming trigger) Use Positive self-talk: Say to yourself calming thoughts like, “I can handle this”; “Stay calm”; “It will be OK”; “I can control my anger.” If you can stay calm, tell the person how you feel in a respectful way....