A sixth Anger payoff is that an emotional outburst can be used for punishment and revenge. For example, let’s say someone has let you down. A huge wave of rage envelops you. Your reaction is to punish them and teach them a lesson. Deep down, you want them...
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How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps- 7B
A fourth “Anger payoff” is that it hides emotional pain. Anger becomes a convenient Band-Aid to cover up uncomfortable feelings like fear, loss, guilt, shame, embarrassment, hurt, and feelings of rejection or failure. Anger is a way to put a tight lid on painful emotions. It is such a...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy Steps-Part 5C
So you have just read two examples of “Old Anger” and how it can get triggered in the present day. It is important to become aware of your anger issues and your temper triggers. This knowledge helps you become consciously aware of what is happening to you and empowers...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Life-changing, Easy steps – Part 4
Anger Management is learning to release or express your Anger in POSITIVE ways instead of NEGATIVE ways.
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Easy, Life-changing Steps – Part 3b
The next step to understanding your anger is realizing how you developed these habits. Most of our anger tendencies were developed in childhood. These reactions then became deeply embedded responses due to years of practicing. Children tend to react on impulse. They do not reason out the long-term implications...
How to Learn Anger Management in 15 Life changing, Easy Steps! Part 3
As children, we responded to anger with impulsive behavior. Since our higher levels of thinking had not yet developed, we expressed this behavior in simple, automatic reactions. Maybe you cried, yelled, bit, hit, ran away, or pouted, but your reaction was straightforward and quick. As a young toddler, you...
Anger Management: Part 2 – Emotion of Anger
Anger is a feeling. It is not good or bad. Instead, it is a natural response to a situation. Your anger is giving you a message. It is trying to tell you that there is something going on in the current situation that you don’t like.
Anger Management: OVERCOMING ANGER: Take back your Control – Part 1
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I have been teaching Anger Management skills for 20 years. This will be an 8 part miniseries on Anger Management that should provide my readers with some helpful insights into developing healthy and positive anger management skills. Each section will post major aspects of...
Anger Management – Introduction: Take back your Control
I am about to blog a 10 part series on Anger Management. This is a subject near and dear to my heart because I have had to work on this issue my whole adult life. I came from an abusive family of origin and lived with a Rage-aholic (someone...